Saturday, 13 October 2007

Words

Swami Gulagulaananda said:
"Words are like arrows - once fired, cannot be retrieved"

Another great quote by the legendary Saint. Often in rage, we tend to say a lot of things which we regret after the effect goes off. You tend to insult and humiliate your best friend, say a lot of harsh words - and then when you think about your actions, you feel embarrassed and then you repent. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us.

Anger clouds minds - even the best among all. And the words at that moment must be controlled. We should never blurt out things - often many secrets are revealed, you might have seen instances like these in courtroom dramas, or books or even witnessed such things in reality. People also tend to debase others - calling insulting names to handicapped or passing remarks and comments. Often the overly sensitive people don't forgive... Here's a wonderful story, a story I received by email which I would like to share with you.
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You
have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there."

Don't let the scars remain. Don't cause scars. Don't blow your top.